Enough

I chance on these words written on the back of a file: I HAVE ENOUGH I DO ENOUGH I AM ENOUGH

Neat and Tidy

Our greatest fear in life is not the fear of death; it’s the fear of loss of control. Adyashanti Oh, how I’d like my life to be “neat and tidy.” I’d love it to be comfortable, secure, and predictable; I’d love everything to stay just ...

My Worst Fear

Sooner or later it happens to all of us. I’m in my very first “home health care” store. You know, the ones with the crutches and bedpans in the window. I’m waiting for my appointment with James, who is going to set me up with a ...

Priorizing Peace of Mind

One of my favorite quotes is: “Choose peace of mind as your greatest priority, and then organize your entire life around it.” Until recently I thought that having “peace of mind” meant getting all the externals ...

Happiness is Who You Are

“Are you happy?” Fer asks, as he rubs my scalp, in preparation for attaching two dozen sensors to my body. I’ve just told him that I’ve written a book called ULTIMATE HAPPINESS. “Yes, I’m happy, but not in the sense of being in bliss ...

Old Men and the Sea

It’s been eight weeks since my wife Linda died after a long illness. We were married twenty years and barely spent more than a few days apart. Our love was—and still is— as vast as the sky and deep as the ocean. Although I’m doing well ...

A Visit from the Other Side

Dragonflies were Linda’s totem animal. They would often fly up to her and hover in front of her, or land on her hand and remain still while she spoke softly to them. Linda could sit by the pond for hours watching a new dragonfly hatch ...

Linda’s Gift

They say that I am dying but I am not going away. Where could I go? I am here. ...

Imagine Peace

Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I’m not so sure about the former. Albert Einstein Sebastian Junger’s new book entitled War, tells of his experience embedded with troops in a remote part of ...

The Monster

Linda and I go back for a therapy session with our two therapists David and Tom after a 3-month recess. Wow, do we need it. After two months of non-stop guests in our cottage on Maui, and all kinds of emotional dramas, Linda and I are ...